Connecting with Your Child in the Afterlife

Losing a child may be the single hardest thing anyone could go through. It doesn’t matter if your child was very young or an adult. As a parent, there is nothing more gut-wrenching than experiencing the loss of someone who will always be your baby.

The waves of sadness that come after such a loss will continue to show up throughout your life. Not all the time, but frequently enough. Losing your own flesh and blood somehow makes the grieving process feel a bit different.

Many parents want to know how to connect with their child in the afterlife. One of the most common questions is whether the child is “growing up,” or if they will stay the same age for eternity. It’s a good question, and there’s a simple answer:

It depends on your perspective, as parents.

How Old is Your Child?

It’s important to keep in mind that just because your child has left their body, it doesn’t mean they stop growing. The soul continues to learn and grow in the afterlife, just not physically.

Parents want to believe certain things about their children once they’ve moved on. For example, if your child passed away at five years old, you might always think of them as five years old. Or, if ten years have passed by since their death, you may think of them as a teenager. Your perspective on your child’s grown will typically reflect how they communicate. If your perspective is that your child has continued to mature in the afterlife, they will communicate to you as such.

Will You Recognize Your Child When You Pass On?

Another question parents often ask is how they’ll be able to reconnect with their deceased child when they pass on. Will you recognize them? Will they recognize you? Will you somehow feel as though you’ve “missed out” on any of their growth, even though it’s been spiritual growth?

“As long as I can I will look at this world for both of us. As long as I can I will laugh with the birds, I will sing with the flowers, I will pray to the stars, for both of us.” - Sascha

None of us know everything there is to know about the afterlife. There will always be unanswered questions and things we won’t be able to fully understand until we pass on ourselves.

But, there are some things you can take comfort in if you’ve lost a child.

You can know that your relationship will be whole again. You won’t feel as though you’ve missed out on anything, and there won’t be pieces of missing information between you and your child, no matter how long ago they passed on. You will find wholeness and completeness in the relationship once again when you’re reunited in the afterlife. Any feelings you may have had of “missing out” here on earth (birthdays, holidays, other important milestones) will be long gone when you’re able to reunite with your child.

Take comfort in that, and in the fact that they will continue to grow in spirit, learning throughout the years and sticking with you until the day you can fully reconnect.

Again, losing a child is never easy. It’s an impossible loss to consider. But, connecting with them is possible, and your perspective on their growth can make your connection even more meaningful through the years.

I'm here. Don't go it alone.

- Kristen.